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Showing posts with label success. Show all posts
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The definition of closer is a person or thing that closes

"Always Be Closing" is a notorious phrase, probably uttered from the lips of every decent sales manager the world over at some point or another. The concept is clear: at all times, you should be fully aware of the fact that you're selling and constantly looking for a way in. For a way to close the deal.

A fabulous example of a slick and rich executive preaching this philosophy as he absolutely rips into a sales force can be found in the movie Glengarry Glen Ross, and I've always found this single performance performed by Alec Baldwin amazing. I've heard people scoff at the character he portrays, balking about how he represents everything wrong with America. It baffles the hell out of me, frankly, because his no-nonsense get'r done mentality is what has driven progress in our beautiful capitalistic society. I've had push-over bosses before and I learned nothing from them. If at any point in my career, I fall into a put of under-performing (I won't) and pick up the nasty habit of excuse making and complacency, it would be a blessing to have someone like Alec's character storm into the office and shake things up. Set things straight.

Now, I don't necessarily advocate treating customers ruthlessly because in this day in age the win goes to the company who is most devoted to servicing their clientele base. What I love about the video is that it champions the idea of becoming a closer on every level. I look at that chalkboard, see "Always Be Closing" and to me that means every waking second. Not just when you finish revving up your morale engines with a third cup of coffee after being at work for an hour, but the second you set your feet on the floor each morning. There may not be outside customers around at five o'clock in the morning to deal with right away but you should be closing yourself; on the goals and day you have ahead, on what you're grateful for in life, on your financial plan, and so forth. If we need to be sold on and believe in a product in order to sell it well, we must be thoroughly sold on the biggest product of all: ourselves.

It can also be said that our rituals define us as human beings. Whether hygienic, personal or spiritual we all have them, so in the spirit of becoming a better all-around closer, here are three key rituals I've observed of a true closer...






3. Early To Rise, First To Conquer

Unless your body clock and work schedule are directly in alignment with the graveyard shift, this likely applies to you. Successful closers understand they are granted only a limited amount of time each day to get things done. Thriving on staying ahead of the curve it's only natural they want to be rockin' and rollin' before the rest of the world turns over in their beds the second time. A great closer also cherishes their body, so if they're going to be working late they've got to incorporate a solid work-out routine and the best time for that is before heading to start doing business with the rest of the world. You're body is a presentation itself so there's a lot to be said about maintaining a solid exercise routine and making it a ritual as well.

Interestingly, if your work schedule is causing you to have the sleeping pattern of a vampire, take into consideration that circadian rhythm is very much so light dependent. Being exposed to light before sleeping will drastically reduce levels of melatonin. Although production of melatonin decreases as we age, it's interesting to note that optimum levels are released between midnight and eight o'clock in the morning. This could also be a factor that affects overall well-being of a truly good closer. Most importantly, research shows that early risers lead happier and healthier lives. The more emotionally and physically stable the bodily environment, the better the closer. 




2. Use Success Incantations

Don't let the word "incantation" fool you, it's got nothing to do with anything occult. Whether we know it or not we utilize incantations as emotional triggers on a daily basis. Think about certain thought patterns you find yourself using in response to situations. When you approach a customer and ask them, "How can I help you?" that itself is an incantation. Anything you say that has emotional pull to it can be considered as much, and the phrase "How can I help you?" definitely has a lot of sway. An entire chapter in a book could be spent discussing why you shouldn't use such scripts because of the negative reaction they will cause, yet I want to talk about an even more critical subject. The scripts you're using on yourself.

If you find yourself saying literally anything that elicits a negative response each time, stop saying it. The same goes with any wordless thought you form. You've got to claim self-awareness, pay attention to what goes on repeatedly inside your head, and realize that negative looping tracks are negative incantations.  They're the reason we keep falling into bad relationships, jobs we hate, and doing things that sabotage our success.

Instead, first go about discovering what thought patterns and incantations you have that build you up. Chances are you have them even if you don't use them much. If it's a previous experience, harness that memory and associate an incantation to it. If you're a nurse, think of an emotionally rewarding time when you helped out a patient. Now, make a statement that declares a purpose you have or belief about yourself. It could be, "I help people each day get over physical, mental and emotional trauma, leading and assisting in the healing process". This incantation could reinforce a goal. If you're striving to become an entry-level nurse or a better nurse, it's safe to say you could utilize this incantation as an emotional trigger to build yourself up? A terrific closer emotionally owns the notion that we are the grand sum total of the inputs going inside of our mind, takes control of the inputs, and uses emotional triggers to create positive ones. This is more relevant to non-salespeople than most realize. If you're going to be a nurse, be sold on every aspect of being a nurse.




1. Setting & Evaluating Goals

Sounds simple, doesn't it? Deceitfully simple. The reality is that you won't become successful by accident, you'll be aware of your progress each step of the way; planning and evaluating goals as you go. No CEO got to where they are by just showing up to work each day. They had detailed goals. Big ones, small ones. Daily goals and monthly goals. The biggest ritual I've seen people have who make outstanding closers is the sheer persistence in goal-setting and evaluation. If a goal starts out too big, you break it down into bite-size chunk. You'll know if it's too big because you'll be evaluating your goals and progress as you go, won't you? I had it drilled into my head in every sales training class I took back when I first immersed myself in professional sales, "What you don't track you can't improve." 

Whatever way you go about recording your goal progress is up to you. I keep logs, myself, in a similar fashion to the logs we kept back in auto sales of every customer that walked on the lot. I write down every detail I perceive affecting the goal, analyze the current situations and what is currently affecting said goal, and tweak my game plan from there. Every day. I began doing this while working at a car dealership while everyone was in their huddle by the coffee table or outside smoking cigarettes together, focused on everything but creating productive rituals to increase their likelihood of success. 

Since that time I've had the opportunity to meet with a wide variety of successful people. Coincidentally,  I always find these kind of new acquaintances share a ritual with myself: we set goals ritualistically and aggressively evaluate them. What about you?














Rejection is a deadly disease. It ruins lives, inhibits potential, and scars people time and time again throughout the remainder of their fleeting life on Earth if left to its own devices. Children who grow up in dysfunctional homes are crippled by it, their vision of humanity tainted. The girl whose father ran out on his family feels rejected as a human being, or the boy who was severely beaten and harassed by his drunken mother understand the concept very clearly, and become defined by the notion. Horrific yet ordinary stories that have become ingrained in our culture to the point of expectancy. We expect our youth to learn and feel rejection, hell 68% of our youth as of 2010 are now growing up in non-traditional families due to one reason or another. It's literally the epitome of modern day living.

The worst part of it all? Rejection is an illusion, perpetuated by our brains due to ancient biological triggers. In a society like what we're dealing with today I feel it's even more important we take an aggressive stance to cure ourselves of this odd disease, and it truly is disease-like in nature, almost a cancer that grows off of normal psychological responses and behavior mechanisms. We've been treating the symptoms and trying to band-aid over it, dealing with it like a tangible thing, when in all reality it's a creation of perceptional confusion.

In a nutshell, people develop the psychological disease between the ages of 0-6 when the brain is still underdeveloped and learns in very primal ways, so it's actually easy to see how the perceptional confusion can occur and how this boogeyman of emotions can become a reality. Susan is 36 months old, is fumbling around the kitchen and knocks over the cookie jar. Her mother has eighty-eight different things on her mind stressing her to her limits as it is, so when little Susie makes this in particular ruckus it just pushes her over the edge: she screams, curses, yells and emotes negativity straight at her rambunctious toddler. Susan doesn't realize that her mother is simply responding to a perception of a stimulus, all she understands is her provider is rejecting her. Needless to say, she responds and cries in a classic attempt to acquire pity and soothe her own emotions. The mother, however, is too furious to give in to the cries and snatches her up and puts her in the corner or even spanks her.

Is any of this out of the ordinary? Nope. It happens quite frequently, and when Susie's gambler father eventually disappears later on that year her mother spirals downward into her own depression, now having the burden of raising a child to herself. Susie grows up with only the most shadowed memories of her father, constant berating and obvious scorn from a mother who has the slightest vendetta against the child she's stuck taking care of by herself, and one big underlying emotional pattern: rejection.



You see, Susan never understood that her father wasn't rejecting her as person and as his daughter. He was rejecting himself as a father and responding to a perception of being unable to handle the responsibilities he was faced with. She never quite logically understood why her mother seemed distant and when she did pay attention it was to scorn her for one thing or another. Emotionally though, she came to conclusion after conclusion that she was not worth it and was just being continually rejected.

During the defining formative years, we contract this disease that feeds off of illusion and is enabled by everyone who acknowledges feeling rejected as a human feeling, when in fact it is quite the opposite. Rejection is a dehumanizing psychological experience. You may feel disappointed, uncomfortable, angry, distraught, confused or feelings of discontentment but you never feel rejection. We create it, we spread it, we let it prevent us from living unbridled by it and it's all a lie.

True success and happiness cannot be obtained in any form while being shackled down by this boogeyman. It's time to break free.


There's a statistic buzzing around out there that states employers have made their decision on whether or not to hire you within the first 120 seconds of the interview. Now, I'm not one to call bullshit too quickly but I'll go ahead and say it, as someone who's been on the interviewing side of the equation: you probably have a 180 - 360 second time frame to get a solid impression in before your interviewer's decided to offer you that lucrative position or not. Those had better be some golden seconds.

The initial and consistent impressions you make upon people are the first bricks of the foundation to a potentially beautiful or disastrous relationship. In business and sales, the end game is the same: to always be building solid relationships that will benefit both parties involved. No one walks away richer when you fail to establish a good relationship with a given prospect - they just run to the next (inferior) business or applicant, missing out entirely on what you truly had to offer. It's crucial that you take every detail of your social encounters ridiculously serious, in the same fashion professional golf players give insane focus and criticism to the minutiae of their stroke, stance and follow-through. With that in mind...

If you watch a game, it's fun. If you play it, it's recreation. If you work at it, it's golf. -  Bob Hope

Here are five subtle ways to make a killer first impression.

5. Make 'Em Smile, Keep 'Em Laughing

The sooner you get them laughing during the initial stages of introduction the better. Laughter releases endorphins which people are accustomed to experiencing with friends, so it's the best step towards getting your foot in their subconscious door. On the premise that no matter what type of prospect it is, be it a prospective employer or client, you want them to like you in great capacity due to the age-old philosophy that people ultimately buy from and hire who they like, it's vital that you get them to vibe with you in this way. 
It's also an easy way to break the ice, get people to relax and open up so you can begin building investigating buying needs and motivations. The best part is you don't have to be a comedian to make this work; simply utilizing your own personality and making observations about people and circumstances is a good way to open up a conversation. People want to laugh, so be the man or woman to efficiently put them in a situation that enables them to do so. 

This man is clearly buying a Kia.


4. Stand/Sit Up Straight & Say No to Hunching

Body language experts theorize that the physical act of hunching over sends a signal to the brains of observers that triggers an impression of someone either in a defensive state or a state preparing to attack. Essentially, signals you don't want your prospects getting. We've been told for years to sit up straight in class, that a confident man stands up straight and tall and that a sloucher is a drained loser, however, it may be easier than you think to slip into a slouch. When you're hunched over at your desk all day and have a surprise visit from an important client it can be tough to snap out of your current body language patterns and enable go-getter mode. The solution? Stay in the zone all day, baby.

Inspiring confidence in the hearts and minds of millions, eh, George?

3. Keep Your Paws Outta Your Face

Ever notice someone talking to you with a hand covering their nose and mouth, or just generally obscuring their face? They're making visual facial and verbal cues harder to pick up on and it pisses people off. The subconscious mind picks up on all these little details, and it won't hesitate to make certain decisions that someone trying to cover their mouth is also trying to cover up the filthy stream of lies coming out of it. No unnecessary eye-rubbing either, it will subtly distract your listener and when you're communicating a multi-million dollar deal with the president of Taco-Hut the last thing you want is to confuse the man or have your message misunderstood.

On a completely different note, this study says keeping your hands away from your face will reduce the spread of germs. It's just an all-around self-destructive habit apparently.


2. Utilize Gestures Appropriately

Now, I'm not saying to flail your arms about like a coked-out Robin Williams imitating an overly expressive used car salesman, but gesturing in the right manner can be the difference between winning body language and drab body language.

In general, keep your hands above your groin region. Gesticulate around your waist and stomach area, calmly and confidently drawing attention to your stomach region. Think about news reporters:



The stomach region is always visible and their hands rest levelly on the desk. Automatic gesticulation creating a sense of trust within observing minds that perceive the person to be having nothing to hide, since it highlights the weakest region on the body thereby drawing attention to the most vulnerable organs. Prehistorically speaking this wouldn't be something you did if you were an aggressor or someone to not be trusted, and to this day the message conveyed is the same: trust.

On a similar note, if you want to influence the minds of your listeners to feel passion or excitement...


Presenting using gestures in the chest/heart region is the route to go. Lots of theoretical and biological science behind this but try it in the mirror and feel the effects yourself. Give yourself a lecture, a speech on whatever your heart desires, and gesture in the heart region. I dare you to not feel just a little excited about whatever the hell you're talking about. Inspired, even. 

Use these gestures with moderation of course, as anything done in extreme fashion will lose effect. Weave them into your sales pitch, your interview, your first date, etc. 


1. The Two Secret Handshakes

It's no secret: the handshake is tremendously powerful in social interactions. We all know how influential oxytocin is in unconsciously assessing whether or not a person is trustworthy, and that's the exact chemical released during a handshake lasting 4-7 seconds or more. 


This is Daily Closer though, so we look deep into these matters. Years ago I wanted to discover just what constituted a great handshake, why poor ones were so bad, and how information was transported through such a simple act. Surely there was more to it than just ensuring your grip was firm and giving the good ol' 1, 2, 3 solid pumps. Turns out I was right.

The first handshake is what I call the "DominateShake". This is a maneuver you've probably had performed on you countless times and were left with an impression of a domineering presence. It's when you go to firmly and completely (thumb-to-forefinger webs meeting fully) shake someone's hand, immediately turn your wrist over to where your palm is down and theirs is up, shake and even push towards them a little. Try it out with someone and you'll immediately feel the effects. Have someone usually more submissive than you use it on you and you'll be put off. It's rarely the best handshake of choice to use in a business setting, but it can be used properly with certain men or women who need to be "put in their place" so to speak. Also, gently pushing towards them and their vital organs in their abdominal region shows power over them. Use it accordingly.

Otherwise, the best option that I consciously use the majority of the time is the "LikeShake". You want to instantaneously cause a spark of genuine attraction within someone? Shake their hand, reverse their hand to put your palm slightly more face up with their palm facing down on yours instead. Go all the way and subtly pull the handshake closer to you and your abdomen for the trust trigger. 

Use these handshakes effectively and you'll begin to see why shaking someone's hand when being introduced to them, in and outside the world of business, can have a huge impact on the impressions you make. It may just be a small change made in your approach but in the spirit of what Bob Hope would say about golf, I'll say:

If you show up, it's work. If you do your job, it's business. If you work at your job, it's your business.








If there's one thing to remember, whether you're maneuvering the landmines of your current boss' personality or functioning as a team member in an assembly line, it's a simple one - you're in the people business.


We're just an advanced form of bacteria, aren't we?

Sell cars? Nope. People make decisions based upon outer and inward circumstantial information to own vehicles. That Kia Optima you just sold this morning isn't so drastically superior from the Hyundai Sonata sitting across the street, or really any other similar classed vehicle for that matter. We're living in a world of over-saturated information - gone are the days where the salesperson is needed to point out and explicitly explain the features included in the LX versus the SX model. It's all available online and chances are your customers came armed to the teeth with that kind of frivolous knowledge, and besides, people don't buy power seats. They buy cars... or do they?

Now, obviously the objective answer here is yes. The real answer here is no, however, because people buy relationships and experiences. You're selling yourself, and you're doing it even when you think you're just chatting up a fellow co-worker at the water cooler. It's a simple notion and nothing ground-breaking, but it's easy to forget once you step outside of a direct sales or business profession and into a seemingly unrelated line of work. 


One day, we will be doctors and you will be HIV.

The reality is as adults we aren't too far away from where we were as youngsters. Kids understand the vital importance of social skills because hell, their entire experience in school revolves around their social status, living and breathing in "we" terminologies. Plus, mixing in all the new life experiences with flaring hormones and emotions makes things a little intense.

After graduating high school, maturing and developing focus and independence, we begin to lose sight just a little of how interdependent we are as a race. We're a clan-oriented species built on the hierarchy societal standards established, fighting for dominance to ensure individual survival while collectively guaranteeing autonomous growth. We all want to succeed, individually and collectively, and we've set up a pretty kosher ecosystem to do that in. At this point along the timeline of human existence we've got a whole slew of technologies swarming around us to perpetuate our continual growth and even more distractions to inhibit our attention spans. So, we get tunnel vision in the grand scheme of things. Bob's busy focusing on tasks A, B and C and they have entirely nothing to do with people and absolutely everything to do with assembling cup holders. Before he realizes it he's been with the company over 20 years and hasn't really progressed anywhere, albeit the three dollar per hour wage increase.

It's not because he was an utter failure at putting together the finest cup holders. It's because he forgot to assemble relationships, network within his company, build rapport and constantly close his higher-ups on himself. He forgot that in life no matter what industry or business category you fall into, you're ultimately in the people business.